Took Logen to lunch (13 h, mar 18, 2018 y – 15 h, mar 18, 2018 y)
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on arrival, Melissa and Logen were both hostile to me. Her grandmother Linda arrived and told me I looked like a terrorist because I have a beard.
It took about an hour of Logen angrily talking to me again about everything and accusing me and Marilynn of things, saying she isn't comfortable at my house and me and Marilynn are mean to her and all we do is fight, etc. I just listened and empathized with her and tried to remind her of how every time she comes to our house she starts crying and tells us how much she missed us and goes straight up to Marilynn and hugs her like she doesn't want to let go, then will chat with her for about an hour to catch her up on everything. She had told us that she loves being with us because it is the only time she gets to experience a real family with a mom and a dad and it feels safe and good to her. Or how much she loves her new room that Marilynn is designing for her.
Her response was that it was all a lie and she has been putting on an act the whole time, that Marilynn is trying to be her mom and that "the stipulation says that when i come to see you it is supposed to be only you and me". After about an hour of listening to her and just trying to show her how much I love her, we walked arm in arm in to the restaurant and had a really nice time and then went and got ice cream after. She softened and I caught a glimpse of the sweet Logen that I know, but she left it at still not wanting to ever come to my house again.
I'm just trying to give her space and show here that i'm listening to her. I didn't let her know that not coming to see me at all isn't an option yet. I don't want her to feel like I'm forcing her. i'd rather try to get us back to a place where she is choosing to come.
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